I have this friend who is really, really happy. Her name is Leta Hamilton. She’s a channel, an author, and a mom of four–and the perfect person to grill for answers about life. Her books include The Way of the Toddler and a four-book series called 100 Daily Messages.
Here, part of a question-and-answer session that I am posting in installments.
Me: So, Leta, here’s the problem: I am not a naturally happy person. I mean, I am happy, most of the time, but it takes a whole lot of work (most notably, a lot of exercise).
Abraham and others talk a lot about the importance of feeling good and gives us lots of tricks to do so. (In one Abraham book, there are 22.) They seem to work for me when I do them consistently. I force myself to a better feeling place. But it takes effort. Sometimes a lot. Maybe others don’t find it as difficult as I do, but to me it feels like I’m fighting an uphill battle trying to counteract all of my learned negativity. I mean, I’m one of those people that can get an awesome cup of coffee, free wi-fi and a perfect couch spot at Starbucks and still focus on the guy yacking on his cell phone next to me to the exclusion of all else. (At least I used to be, and sometimes still am.)
What is your advice about this?
Leta: My advice is to love what is. Just that.
Me: How? Can you give me a much clearer, more practical idea of what’s going on in your head as you are loving and appreciating throughout your day? Maybe a small example of a few moments inside your head?
Leta: Often, my head is just saying, “I love God.” I have thoughts. I’m human, after all. But my head is empty probably a lot more than most humans.
I will meet people I don’t like. I will encounter things and situations I don’t like. They may even be grotesque to my sensibilities. However, I am challenged to love the divine within all things. I am challenged to be One with all things. I am challenged to broaden my perspective so that I find the divine innocence at the heart of everything. I am challenged to love and accept everyone, even people I don’t like. If I meet someone I don’t like, I ask myself if this is a situation I can change. Am I willing to put forth the effort to like them (which would mean changing everything about myself, going into another personality and being someone I am not)? The answer is no. However, I can see the divine innocence in them. I can understand them and love them even though I may not like them. None of it scares me. I love it all. I have a relationship with myself that allows for constant self-inquiry leading to understanding and love that takes me beyond the disconnected to the connected. I have so much fun.
For more from Leta, and more from me on meditation, get The Power of Acceptance: One Year of Mindfulness and Meditation on Amazon.
More Stuff to Read:
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There’s a Book for That, Too
It’s a great time to get suddenly awesome. So many teachers. So many books.
- Best Spiritual-But-Not-Religious Books for Overcoming Depression
- Books I Want My Kids to Read Someday
I’m a Partner, a Mom, a Friend, a Mom, a Sister, a Daughter, a Businessperson and a Mom. Here’s What Helps.
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- My Mostly Ridiculous Self-Improvement Journal
- 150 Life Hacks for Overcoming Depression
- Suddenly Awesome Miscellany (And, Let’s Be Real: Book Promos)