There was another thing I learned in my second and third years with David that went along with that, and it was: how to be more secure.
When David and I first got together, I obsessed about my looks. I wondered if I was pretty enough for him and whether he would stay attracted to me after our initial infatuation wore off.
Then one day a couple of years after we got together, I looked in the mirror and realized something: I liked the way I look.
It surprised me.
Before that, when I would see myself in the mirror, I wouldn’t think I was very pretty. I have a big nose and a round face and that isn’t very feminine at all.
I look like my dad.
But that time when I looked, I thought, My face is intelligent. It is serious.
It is a great face and I would not change it at all.
Anyway, if I were prettier, I may have married earlier, I realized. That would have been bad. Also, I may have had an easier childhood. That would have been tragic.
I would not be here right now.
Thinking this way was a definite improvement.