Best Spirituality Book for Depression: Neale Donald Walsch on Relationships by Neale Donald Walsch
Okay, so it’s not Conversations With God. But that doesn’t mean it’s not worth reading. Besides, it’s short and chatty. I like that.
Neale Donald Walsch on Relationships is the transcript of a seminar speech given by the author. It retains the conversational style of the speech.
In the past, Walsch says, he had no idea what relationships were all about. He thought that the purpose of having a partnership was to get something, rather than to give something. He tried to arrange his relationships as a kind of barter: “If you give me this, I’ll give you that.”
The result: he often felt he had to change himself for his partners (for example, soften his loud, embarrassing laugh).
Much later Walsch learned that the real reason for relationships is to help us know who we are, since we can only see in ourselves what we see in others. “Therefore, I cannot find the divinity within me until I seek, discover, and recognize . . . the divinity in you.”
They are also our opportunity to give to others, to love them and see the good in them.
In a pure, awakened relationship, both partners allow each other to do and be whatever they desire—no matter what it is—without anger or punishment. Instead, if the partner wants to do something they’re not okay with, they respond by taking the actions they feel are right for them in light of the other’s actions.
A great example of this: If Walsch’s wife decided to smoke in the house, he’d lovingly, gracefully tell her he will no longer choose to live in the same house. There is no power struggle here, no arguing or blaming; just a clear-headed choice of response.
Our modern institution of marriage does the exact opposite of this. “It “possesses rather than releases,” and “limits, rather than expands.” It’s our way of trying to trap each other into staying the same, even though people are meant to change constantly.
A good partner is:
- Someone you can be your authentic self with, and
- Someone who accepts you truly. Some of our so-called faults are actually our best qualities—with the volume turned up a bit too high. We can adjust the volume as needed, without changing who we are.
Other thoughts of note:
- “Love never says no. You know how I know that? Because God never says no.”
- Someone asks Walsch how to get out of a power struggle in their relationship. “Well, stop it,” Walsch says. “How do I do that without adapting to conditions that really don’t work for me?” they ask. “Simply stop making an issue over the fact that you refuse to adapt. Just don’t adapt.” Don’t try to make the other person wrong. Just make your own choice in response to theirs.
- Someone asks why our hearts have to be broken for us to feel more love, and Walsch says that’s just a “cultural myth,” that even when we break up with someone, we can do so in peace, knowing both people have leashed what they wished to learn.
- Walsch also advises people to be flexible about the “package” a partner shows up in. Your mind may have one plan and your soul, another.
Can this book help me overcome depression?
Depression effectiveness rating: 2 on a scale of 1-10
Where can I find it?
- ‘Being at One’: Neale Donald Walsch Interview with Gil Dekel
- on YouTube
- on YouTube
- Neale Donald Walsch Interview with Dr. Michael Laitman
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