Contributor: Mollie Player
You know how sometimes, you just suddenly realize that you need to engage in some little vice that you normally never engage in, because if you don’t, something really bad is going to happen? Like eating a huge bowl of ice cream or drinking a little too much caffeine? Well, for me, my mostly harmless vice is TV and movies.
A little background: Normally, I am not a TV or movie watcher. Now, don’t get me wrong: I like TV, and I don’t blame anyone for watching it and enjoying it on a regular basis. But with the way my life is right now–a new(ish) baby and a serious lack of personal time plus the need to crank out a couple of books a year and all–lately, it just hasn’t been a very big part of my life.
The other day, though, as I was taking a walk, I had one of those moments I described earlier. “I need to watch a movie,” I realized. Maybe my stress level had gone up a notch or maybe I just missed this form of entertainment after months without it, I’m not sure.
Of course, normally, I probably would’ve just made the decision to rent something online and then moved on, but at the time it wasn’t quite that easy. Due to lack of use, my husband and I no longer subscribe to Netflix, and even if we did I don’t know how to hook it up to the TV. In addition, our DVD player broke recently and we haven’t gotten around to fixing it, so Red Box was also not an option. Basically, then, if I wanted to watch a movie, I needed my husband’s help to do so.
Here’s the thing, though: I didn’t want it to feel for him like a chore; with a new baby around, there were enough of those already.
I just wanted the whole movie experience to actually feel like fun.
And so, as all of this information dashed through my mind, I decided to say an affirmation about it. My affirmation went like this:
“My husband will feel inspired to watch a movie with me.”
It sounds silly, I know, praying about a tiny little thing like this. And I admit that the only reason I said it at all is that I felt a (sort of unexpected) inner urging to do so.
Then I forgot about it–the affirmation, I mean.
I didn’t forget about my need to zone out with a movie, though, and so that night, I asked my husband if he wanted to do so, and he said yes. The next day we did, and it was great. After it was over we had a brief conversation about making the cable permanently hooked up to the TV so we could watch online movies anytime, which would require some major rewiring. Then, after this discussion I again thought no more about it.
After that: a surprise. That weekend, my husband went to an electronics store for a new computer, and when he came home he had something for me as well: a new DVD player. Then, the same weekend, he rewired the entire family room as well.
We still don’t have the cable hooked up (that’s a separate process, of which the room rewiring was just the first step). But we have watched several movies over the past few weeks, and I’ve learned a wonderful lesson: Affirmations–especially inspired ones–are just so much more effective than nagging.
It’s spirituality for the rest of us
Eckhart Tolle is awesome. So are Byron Katie and all those Buddhist monks we hear about. Why, then, doesn’t their advice immediately solve all our most pressing spiritual problems?
Why are their results so difficult to replicate?
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