Sometimes, bad things just seem to happen.
That’s the way life is, after all.
And since we can’t prevent all those annoyances, today, a little “happiness hack” that subverts some of their nasty side-effects, namely, the bad memories they evoke later on. And here it is:
Just forget them.
That’s right: When something bad happens to you, there’s no rule in life that says you have to remember it and obsess about it for years to come. Instead, when it comes to mind, you can just say to yourself, “Yeah, that kinda sucked.”
And then move on.
But here’s the real trick: learning to replace it with a better memory.
In the book Happiness: Unlocking the Mysteries of Psychological Wealth, authors Ed Diener and Robert Biswas-Diener suggest just that. Interpretation is vital to happiness, they say. Choosing to retain happy memories over unhappy ones is important because there is only so much room in your brain.
In other words: Since you can’t remember everything, you might as well choose to remember the good!
I like it, guys. Thanks for that.
It’s spirituality for the rest of us.
Eckhart Tolle is awesome. So are Byron Katie and all those Buddhist monks we hear about. Why, then, doesn’t their advice immediately solve all our most pressing spiritual problems?
Why are their results so difficult to replicate?
More Stuff to Read:
Some Spiritual Practices Actually Work. It’s Amazing.
There are hundreds of spiritual techniques for overcoming depression and increasing inner peace. Here, stories about the ones that actually work. (In some posts, I rate the practices on a scale of 1-10, too. Sort of like county fair pumpkins, but more spiritual.)
These Are the Books I Want My Kids to Read Someday
Kids, here it is. Have at it.
- Spiritual-But-Not-Religious Books I Want My Kids to Read Someday
- All Books I Want My Kids to Read Someday
I’m a Partner, a Mom, a Friend, a Mom, a Sister, a Daughter, a Businessperson and a Mom. Here’s What Helps.
Don’t read this section. It’s nonsense, mostly.
- My Mostly Ridiculous Self-Improvement Journal
- 150 Life Hacks for Getting Suddenly Awesome
- Suddenly Awesome Miscellany (And, Let’s Be Real: Book Promos)