Sometimes, bad things just seem to happen.
That’s the way life is, after all.
And since we can’t prevent all those annoyances, today, a little “happiness hack” that subverts some of their nasty side-effects, namely, the bad memories they evoke later on. And here it is:
Just forget them.
That’s right: When something bad happens to you, there’s no rule in life that says you have to remember it and obsess about it for years to come. Instead, when it comes to mind, you can just say to yourself, “Yeah, that kinda sucked.”
And then move on.
But here’s the real trick: learning to replace it with a better memory.
In the book Happiness: Unlocking the Mysteries of Psychological Wealth, authors Ed Diener and Robert Biswas-Diener suggest just that. Interpretation is vital to happiness, they say. Choosing to retain happy memories over unhappy ones is important because there is only so much room in your brain.
In other words: Since you can’t remember everything, you might as well choose to remember the good!
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