Life Hack for Getting Suddenly Awesome: Pretend to Be Good


In The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin (an awesome book, by the way), the author says something I really, really like. See, she’s something of a researcher (something of? she’s a researcher), and her book is stock full of these awesome little scientific ideas. One of them that I just love is this:

People subconsciously transfer to you the traits you give to others.

That’s right. When you say something negative about someone, that comment “bounces off of them and sticks to you.”

And when you compliment someone, the same thing happens–and, suddenly, you’re golden.

It’s called “spontaneous trait transference,” and it’s totally real. And when I heard about it, I just had to share. After all, what’s an easier way to look good than to just start complimenting others more? It might even be considered–well, what exactly? I know: An “angel hack!” All of the great rep points but none of the work!

Doesn’t get any better than that.


It’s spirituality for the rest of us.

Eckhart Tolle is awesome. So are Byron Katie and all those Buddhist monks we hear about. Why, then, doesn’t their advice immediately solve all our most pressing spiritual problems?

Why are their results so difficult to replicate?

You’re Getting Closer and The Power of Acceptance. Get them for an uplifting price on Amazon.


More Stuff to Read:

Some Spiritual Practices Actually Work. It’s Amazing.

There are hundreds of spiritual techniques for overcoming depression and increasing inner peace. Here, stories about the ones that actually work. (In some posts, I rate the practices on a scale of 1-10, too. Sort of like county fair pumpkins, but more spiritual.)

These Are the Books I Want My Kids to Read Someday

Kids, here it is. Have at it.

I’m a Partner, a Mom, a Friend, a Mom, a Sister, a Daughter, a Businessperson and a Mom. Here’s What Helps.

Don’t read this section. It’s nonsense, mostly.



  1. The book sounds well worth a read. “Spontaneous trait transference” is perhaps another way of describing karma or “cause and effect”. Great article by the way! Thanks.


  2. Hi Mollie:
    “Spontaneous trait transference”

    It’s why I’m always careful with my words. When I’m with my BEST friend especially, I want to build her up as she has (in her own words) has told me that no one’s ever done so before.

    I do this with all of my friends though, not just w/my best friend. It’s what I think draws people to me. They understand that if they get into my inner circle that I will protect them that I will honor them.



  3. Karma? In a way, it sounds like that. If I treat enough people good and nice (and combine that with positive thinking about myself) I will create a positive energy flow (aura) around myself to attract nice things and nice people.
    Sounds fine, to me.


  4. Yeah, I think there’s something to the idea pf karma, although not what people think. I don’t believe in “bad” karma at all … just creation of our lives, kinda like what you said, Scott. Have you ever read the book “Dying to Be Me” by someone who experienced death? Very good.


  5. The word that comes to mind is “Resonance”. As in how you choose to be and act, is what the universe will reflect back to you, not unlike a mirror.


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