In The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin (an awesome book, by the way), the author says something I really, really like. See, she’s something of a researcher (something of? she’s a researcher), and her book is stock full of these awesome little scientific ideas. One of them that I just love is this:
People subconsciously transfer to you the traits you give to others.
That’s right. When you say something negative about someone, that comment “bounces off of them and sticks to you.”
And when you compliment someone, the same thing happens–and, suddenly, you’re golden.
It’s called “spontaneous trait transference,” and it’s totally real. And when I heard about it, I just had to share. After all, what’s an easier way to look good than to just start complimenting others more? It might even be considered–well, what exactly? I know: An “angel hack!” All of the great rep points but none of the work!
Doesn’t get any better than that.
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Some Spiritual Practices Actually Work. It’s Amazing.
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- My Favorite Spiritual Practices for Overcoming Depression
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