Life Hack for Getting Suddenly Awesome: Don’t Get What You Want


Your brain is a total doofus.

Okay, so maybe I’m overstating the case just a tad. I like my brain, after all.

But that doesn’t mean I always listen to it.

Consider this example of how your own mind screws with your ability to be happy on a daily basis …

In the book Happiness: The Science Behind Your Smileauthor and psychologist Daniel Nettle gives us a little insight into the crazy machinations of the human brain. He says that the area of the brain that, when stimulated, produces desire is a totally different part of the brain than that which is involved in producing pleasure.

Think about the implications of this for a moment: What you want isn’t always what makes you happy.

In fact, the two can exist exclusive of each other a very great deal of the time.

But don’t we already know this, after all? Every day, we watch as people chase goals that don’t get them any closer to their ultimate goal of being happy.

They yell at their children. They sit on the couch instead of cleaning the kitchen.

They buy a freakin’ Masarati.

So doesn’t it make sense that their brains are just telling them to make these mistakes–that these flaws are just a fundamental part of their hard-wiring?

Probably. In any case, as we cut them (and ourselves) a renewed amount of slack, let’s keep in mind this simple (non-)equation:

“Desirable” does not equal “good.”

How’s that for a deep thought of the day? Let me know what you think!


It’s spirituality for the rest of us.

Eckhart Tolle is awesome. So are Byron Katie and all those Buddhist monks we hear about. Why, then, doesn’t their advice immediately solve all our most pressing spiritual problems?

Why are their results so difficult to replicate?

You’re Getting Closer and The Power of Acceptance. Get them for an uplifting price on Amazon.


More Stuff to Read:

Some Spiritual Practices Actually Work. It’s Amazing.

There are hundreds of spiritual techniques for overcoming depression and increasing inner peace. Here, stories about the ones that actually work. (In some posts, I rate the practices on a scale of 1-10, too. Sort of like county fair pumpkins, but more spiritual.)

These Are the Books I Want My Kids to Read Someday

Kids, here it is. Have at it.

I’m a Partner, a Mom, a Friend, a Mom, a Sister, a Daughter, a Businessperson and a Mom. Here’s What Helps.

Don’t read this section. It’s nonsense, mostly.



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