Contributor: Debbianne DeRose. DeRose is the author of the new primer for single gals, How I Met the Man of My Dreams: a Guide to MANifesting Yours, as well as the humorous memoir What I Did On My Midlife Crisis Vacation. Stop by Debbianne.com for thought-provoking, giggle-inducing angles on life. You can also view a cute book trailer on Youtube here.
I’d been single for a really long time. And although I knew what I was looking for in a relationship, I didn’t actually believe there was a man alive who could measure up. As it turns out, though, belief is not necessary—as long as you stop actively disbelieving. It also turns out that being picky is an asset, not a detriment as is commonly assumed.
I’d been studying a lot of Abraham Hicks and other metaphysical teachers for about a year before the big MANifestation, and was earnestly applying what I learned to my inner emotional life. As I released resistance by consciously choosing positive thoughts over negative ones, I became increasingly joyful—like never before in my life. That kind of personal vibration-raising is the key to success with the law of attraction, and there are many tools and tricks to facilitate the process.
A few weeks before meeting the man of my dreams, I experienced the crucial “letting go” moment. The scales had finally tipped, and a critical mass of resistance had been released, allowing my pleasing MANifestation to materialize.
He and I met at the Monroe Institute (and it’s an interesting story involving an out-of-body experience), having followed our individual blisses to a week-long residential meditation program there. I went for the consciousness exploration and received a “Monromance” as a bonus gift!
We were strongly magnetized to each other, and it all felt very natural—as if we’d already known each other (and perhaps we had …). I was lovestruck and twitterpated, to say the least, because not only did he like me as much as I liked him, he also embodied everything I’ve ever longed for in a man—including the qualities I’d thought were too picayune. You see, the Universe knows no such limits and issues no judgment. It is standing by, eager to deliver the goods once we stop insisting upon those limitations.
It’s been a year now, and our love affair continues to bloom. Hindsight has brought me the gift of clarity–about the inner workings of the mind, the reasons we stumble, and the pitfalls specific to women wanting to be hooked up. So I wrote about it all for the single sisterhood, with humor and tough love, to help shorten, lighten and enliven that road trip to the MANifestival.
If you have a strong desire for a relationship, or anything else for that matter, that means it’s definitely within your reach, so please don’t interpret those stumbling blocks as an indication that you cannot have what you want. This self-improvement work can be challenging, but it’s well worth the effort, and far easier once you have all the information. You can do this! Women are tough—we birth babies and stuff, remember?
It’s spirituality for the rest of us
Eckhart Tolle is awesome. So are Byron Katie and all those Buddhist monks we hear about. Why, then, doesn’t their advice immediately solve all our most pressing spiritual problems?
Why are their results so difficult to replicate?
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Some people are such show-offs. But that doesn’t mean they’re not worth listening to.
There’s a Book for That, Too
It’s a great time to get suddenly awesome. So many teachers. So many books.
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