Life Hack for Getting Suddenly Awesome: Don’t Help People


I have a serious weakness. It’s for people I love.

You see—I want them to get happy, even though they can’t always seem to do that.

So what do I do?

First, I try to help them—which doesn’t usually work too well.

Second—and even worse—I feel guilty for being happy when they aren’t.

Crap. I’m so unperfect sometimes.

Oh, well.

I am working on it, I promise.

I swear.

This one will take some time, though.

(Is it a girl thing.? If so, God truly help us all.)


It’s spirituality for the rest of us.

Eckhart Tolle is awesome. So are Byron Katie and all those Buddhist monks we hear about. Why, then, doesn’t their advice immediately solve all our most pressing spiritual problems?

Why are their results so difficult to replicate?

You’re Getting Closer and The Power of Acceptance. Get them for an uplifting price on Amazon.


More Stuff to Read:

Some Spiritual Practices Actually Work. It’s Amazing.

There are hundreds of spiritual techniques for overcoming depression and increasing inner peace. Here, stories about the ones that actually work. (In some posts, I rate the practices on a scale of 1-10, too. Sort of like county fair pumpkins, but more spiritual.)

These Are the Books I Want My Kids to Read Someday

Kids, here it is. Have at it.

I’m a Partner, a Mom, a Friend, a Mom, a Sister, a Daughter, a Businessperson and a Mom. Here’s What Helps.

Don’t read this section. It’s nonsense, mostly.



  1. I have the same problem and I’m trying to work on it too (not working). I feel guilty for EVERYTHING. Not just about being happy but about things that we take for granted: hot water, a good car, peace at night. It truly is a problem I need to work on because I don’t want to seem ungrateful either. Maybe its the Catholic in me. Either way – when you find a way to shut it off, gimme a call.


  2. ha. Help to help, not to make them happy. Help and that is it – the outcome (i.e., their happiness or non-happiness) is none of our business. This is how I try to view it anyway.


  3. I feel that if someone wants help, that is fine. But I don’t believe in helping someone to be dependant on me (as in not learning for themselves, or responsible for themselves).


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