Have you ever asked your boyfriend—or someone else’s boyfriend, or maybe yourself—maybe, even, your girlfriend (though it’s rare), why they like video games so much?
It’s funny: They won’t be able to tell you.
“It’s relaxing,” they might say, but we have seen how upset they get when they play, and we are on to them.
We know it isn’t true.
I’m not a scientist, of course, or an expert on almost anything, but I think I know the real answer: It helps them forget about themselves for a while. It gets them out of the real world, out of the past and the future and even the present—out of the realm of time.
It helps them escape.
And, more than all that:
It gives them a sense of accomplishment.
Movies don’t do that—not most movies, anyway. TV definitely doesn’t. But seeing your points or levels or whatever intangible rewards they give you accrue gives you motivation to continue—quantifiable motivation.
Well, okay, you may be saying. But what does that mean for me?
What it means for you and for all of us is this: the human brain is built to get pleasure from work.
Video games aren’t, essentially, pleasurable. They don’t directly stimulate your brain as eating does, or as exercise. Some video games don’t give pleasure at all—they are what we call “boring.”
What makes a video game fun, then? It’s fun when it’s challenging, and competitive, and creative. In other words:
It’s fun when it feels like work.
And the good news here: Real work can be even better. See, work not only gives me a sense of accomplishment—it gives me actual accomplishment. The better I do it, and the more I do it, the more I get back.
It is predictable, and it doesn’t disappoint.
You can do it for hours on end without guilt, without thinking you should be somewhere else, doing something else.
It is addictive.
Like a good video game, work you love to do can take you out of the real world and out of the realm of real time.
It can help you escape.
And that’s why I recommend getting a job.
But not just any job:
A job that you like.
A job that makes you feel important, and accomplished, and valuable to the world in some way.
It doesn’t have to be your greatest passion in life, or your favorite hobby.
But it should be something you do well.
It should be something you can immerse yourself in fully, something that rewards you with more than money.
Is that too much to ask?
It’s spirituality for the rest of us.
Eckhart Tolle is awesome. So are Byron Katie and all those Buddhist monks we hear about. Why, then, doesn’t their advice immediately solve all our most pressing spiritual problems?
Why are their results so difficult to replicate?
More Stuff to Read:
Some Spiritual Practices Actually Work. It’s Amazing.
There are hundreds of spiritual techniques for overcoming depression and increasing inner peace. Here, stories about the ones that actually work. (In some posts, I rate the practices on a scale of 1-10, too. Sort of like county fair pumpkins, but more spiritual.)
These Are the Books I Want My Kids to Read Someday
Kids, here it is. Have at it.
- Spiritual-But-Not-Religious Books I Want My Kids to Read Someday
- All Books I Want My Kids to Read Someday
I’m a Partner, a Mom, a Friend, a Mom, a Sister, a Daughter, a Businessperson and a Mom. Here’s What Helps.
Don’t read this section. It’s nonsense, mostly.
- My Mostly Ridiculous Self-Improvement Journal
- 150 Life Hacks for Getting Suddenly Awesome
- Suddenly Awesome Miscellany (And, Let’s Be Real: Book Promos)