Life Hack for Overcoming Depression: Don’t Let Your Brain Fool You


Here’s an amazing quote for you today from your friend Albert Einstein:

“The most important question any human being can ask themselves is, ‘Is this a friendly universe?’ If it is, if all good things are the essence of existence, there is no reason to despair.”

A lot of people, including me, like to wax eloquent on pain and suffering as a natural and important part of personal growth and life itself. And I still believe that to be true. When you’re experiencing something that brings out a negative feeling, that is often your best moment to allow yourself to change.

Having said that, though, there’s something we humans often forget, and it is this:

Life is good.

Life is actually pretty darn good.

Okay, so it’s not good all the time. But–and here’s the real key–if you (like me) believe that this life is just one stop on a longer, deeper, very beautiful journey, all that bad stuff is just temporary.

That doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt in the moment, of course. But this is the point that I want to make:

You don’t have to expect your life to always be bad.

You don’t have to teach yourself to “embrace” pain and “welcome” it.

You don’t have, like many people teach, to suffer.

If things aren’t perfect today, but they’re still going pretty darn well overall–you don’t have to focus on the bad at all. You have every right to totally ignore that stuff and to instead just think about the good. 

Don’t let your nitpick-loving brain fool you into thinking otherwise.


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  1. I agree that life is generally pretty darn good. As a therapist, I have to say I think there’s a big difference between expecting pain on the one hand, and embracing it when it actually comes on the other.

    Expecting pain all the time is a questionable mental habit. But embracing (tolerating/having/witnessing/experiencing) pain when you have it seems to me a healthy, compassionate and productive response.

    Not being able to experience pain is a recipe for getting stuck.


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