Recently a friend told me about a study saying that about 80% of our thoughts are negative, and only 20% or fewer are positive or neutral.
Oh, crap, I thought when I heard that. And my second thought was: Yeah. That’s so, so true.
Here’s a brief inventory of my thoughts for the day: I’m so hungry, I’m so full, I don’t have time to do that, What will he think of me?, I wish she’d leave me alone, and Damn, I hate water.
And those are just the least embarrassing ones.
The problem is, of course, that when you’re negative, you’re also attracting more negativity in a “downward spiral” of sorts. I guess this is why so many people try to pray or meditate in the mornings every day. Maybe they figure they can start a “positivity spiral” for the day instead.
So today, ask yourself: “Do I attract negativity?” Think about who you are inside – not who you think you project when with others, because believe me, people are not usually fooled and you can’t keep it up all the time.
But think about the person you are when you are alone or – most notably – with your family. Then ask yourself: Am I negative? If so, no big deal. Knowing it is half the battle, as they say.
After that: Get to work! And I will, too.
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