In the three years we’ve known each other, my husband and I have only had one major fight.
It was about a year and a half ago, and it was pretty much resolved within the hour.
There was some door slamming, and some crying, and then he apologized (it was his fault, after all).
And then it was over.
What is our secret to not fighting?
We don’t like to.
Yup. That’s really all there is to it.
We hate to fight.
And, as a result, we don’t pick at each other. If one of us is annoying or annoyed, instead of getting annoyed back, we usually just laugh.
We make a joke of it, and we don’t take anything personally.
When he is cranky, I ask him if he is cranky, and he says yes.
When I am cranky, he asks me if I am okay, and I say no, not really.
We talk about it.
We go to bed, and get enough sleep, and the next day we are fine.
Every day, I wake up knowing that we will be happy. There won’t be tension between us, and instead of sucking my emotional energy out of me, our relationship will give me more.
And I have to say: this is my definition of bliss.
For more on this subject, read this post.
How often do you fight? I’d love to hear from you, my dear reader! Leave a comment below.
Inspiration from the other side.
You’ve been on the spiritual path for a good while now. You’ve read the books. Maybe even met a guru or two. Sometimes, though, you need a different kind of inspiration. Inspiration from someone who knows how hard this inner peace stuff really is.
More Stuff to Read:
Some Spiritual Practices Actually Work. It’s Amazing.
There are hundreds of spiritual techniques for overcoming depression and increasing inner peace. Here, stories about the ones that actually work. (In some posts, I rate the practices on a scale of 1-10, too. Sort of like county fair pumpkins, but more spiritual.)
These Are the Books I Want My Kids to Read Someday
Kids, here it is. Have at it.
- Spiritual-But-Not-Religious Books I Want My Kids to Read Someday
- All Books I Want My Kids to Read Someday
I’m a Partner, a Mom, a Friend, a Mom, a Sister, a Daughter, a Businessperson and a Mom. Here’s What Helps.
Don’t read this section. It’s nonsense, mostly.
- My Mostly Ridiculous Self-Improvement Journal
- 150 Life Hacks for Getting Suddenly Awesome
- Suddenly Awesome Miscellany (And, Let’s Be Real: Book Promos)