No one likes advice. But there is not a person on this earth that doesn’t love a compliment.
I’m a pretty social person. I meet new people on a regular basis, and almost whenever I do this, I find myself asking one question about them, which is: are they happy?
And, if not, what do they need in order to be more happy?
What can I help them with?
It’s crazy, I know, and I never (okay, I rarely) say this out loud.
But the question is always there, in my head, and it comes out in a million different ways: telling them where I go to get a haircut, what books to read on a given subject, how to deal with stupid people.
I know, I know:
I am incredibly annoying.
Sometimes, though, my well-meaning advice comes out differently.
It comes out as a compliment.
Like, “You are so good at communicating your feelings” (when they’re really not).
Or, “I love how you always seem to know what not to say” (when this is very far from the truth).
Or even, “I love your hair” (just as a way to remind them of what they do have on their side).
And when this happens–when I find a way to replace direct advice with the indirect kind–it just works so much better.
Inspiration from the other side.
You’ve been on the spiritual path for a good while now. You’ve read the books. Maybe even met a guru or two. Sometimes, though, you need a different kind of inspiration. Inspiration from someone who knows how hard this inner peace stuff really is.
More Stuff to Read:
Some Spiritual Practices Actually Work. It’s Amazing.
There are hundreds of spiritual techniques for overcoming depression and increasing inner peace. Here, stories about the ones that actually work. (In some posts, I rate the practices on a scale of 1-10, too. Sort of like county fair pumpkins, but more spiritual.)
These Are the Books I Want My Kids to Read Someday
Kids, here it is. Have at it.
- Spiritual-But-Not-Religious Books I Want My Kids to Read Someday
- All Books I Want My Kids to Read Someday
I’m a Partner, a Mom, a Friend, a Mom, a Sister, a Daughter, a Businessperson and a Mom. Here’s What Helps.
Don’t read this section. It’s nonsense, mostly.
- My Mostly Ridiculous Self-Improvement Journal
- 150 Life Hacks for Getting Suddenly Awesome
- Suddenly Awesome Miscellany (And, Let’s Be Real: Book Promos)