Sometimes, people overestimate themselves a little. Okay, a lot. And not sometimes.
And I’m sure there are times that that’s actually okay. Often, though, it isn’t. The problem: you can waste a lot of time wondering why you can’t change yourself instead of finding a real solution to the problem.
Recently, I had a rough week. I am pregnant, so I blame it on that. Anyway, I was feeling annoyed with everyone, and I snapped at my husband several times over little things that didn’t really matter. Instead of trying to figure out why I acted that way, though, and thinking, “Mollie, stop doing that. You’re not trying hard enough,” I realized that I was just weak. Some things are stronger than me—even things I seem to be able to control. I forgave myself, and I apologized to him.
And then I did something else: I told him that every time I snapped at him from then on, I would give him a little back massage.
And it worked. Within a day I was considerably less annoyed with him. Within a few days things were back to normal.
Should I have been able to stop myself from snapping at him without instituting a punishment for it? Probably. But I wasn’t. And that’s okay.
I’m not going to wake up someday and suddenly be perfect.
I’m going to be the same: weak–but happy.
Inspiration from the other side.
You’ve been on the spiritual path for a good while now. You’ve read the books. Maybe even met a guru or two. Sometimes, though, you need a different kind of inspiration. Inspiration from someone who knows how hard this inner peace stuff really is.
More Stuff to Read:
Some Spiritual Practices Actually Work. It’s Amazing.
There are hundreds of spiritual techniques for overcoming depression and increasing inner peace. Here, stories about the ones that actually work. (In some posts, I rate the practices on a scale of 1-10, too. Sort of like county fair pumpkins, but more spiritual.)
These Are the Books I Want My Kids to Read Someday
Kids, here it is. Have at it.
- Spiritual-But-Not-Religious Books I Want My Kids to Read Someday
- All Books I Want My Kids to Read Someday
I’m a Partner, a Mom, a Friend, a Mom, a Sister, a Daughter, a Businessperson and a Mom. Here’s What Helps.
Don’t read this section. It’s nonsense, mostly.
- My Mostly Ridiculous Self-Improvement Journal
- 150 Life Hacks for Getting Suddenly Awesome
- Suddenly Awesome Miscellany (And, Let’s Be Real: Book Promos)